Jo wrote:
I felt sorry for Erica but I don't think she is doing herself any favours. Admittedly she had the support of his father, her ex, but her two daughters were conspicuous by their absence and there was a mention of family rifts as she had become increasingly obsessed by her hunt for "the truth". .
It takes a huge amount of will power to remain with someone who is persuing a matter like this. I cannot speak for the daughters but I can see that hey might want to move on, knowing that nothing will bring him back to them.
Jo wrote:No-one can really imagine what they would do in such a position, but I can't help thinking she would be better advised to stop trying to find a specific individual culprit, lay Jerry's memory to rest, and then devote herself more constructively to campaigning against cults in general. That might allow her to move on but still do something positive in her son's memory.
Can a mother let go in such a way? We are considering human psychology here and there are huge imperatives to act even where the liklihood of an acceptable output is almost zero. There is a parallel - the mother of that boy believed to have been buried on Saddleworth Moor by Myra Hindley and accomplice.
Jo; as onlookers we can think logically about Erica and make suggestions but when you are in the middle, such logic and thinking doesn't record. It may be unfortunate, even self-destroying but it is part of the human psyche.