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by Janey Jam-Jar
Wed May 15, 2024 10:08 am
Forum: Abuse cases and related discussions
Topic: Self Help Group for Survivors of Abuse at CH
Replies: 9
Views: 15969

Re: Self Help Group for Survivors of Abuse at CH

I'd like to apologise to anyone affected when I doubted the news re. Dobbie a few years ago. Unlike most teachers from my CH time (1982-1989) I got on particularly well with Dobbie, and even stayed overnight at his house at least once, and I simply could not believe the accusations. I expressed unw...
by Janey Jam-Jar
Wed May 15, 2024 9:57 am
Forum: Abuse cases and related discussions
Topic: Self Help Group for Survivors of Abuse at CH
Replies: 9
Views: 15969

Re: Self Help Group for Survivors of Abuse at CH

I feel so excited and privileged that we are about to start this. So many of us suffered alone for years. I hope this next group is a healing experience for all. Are you going to run this again? I am too late for this round, alas, but would definitely be interested next time you set up a group. Jum...
by Janey Jam-Jar
Wed May 15, 2024 9:46 am
Forum: General Chat - CH Stuff
Topic: Amelia White (in the Daily Mail) deplores her CH years
Replies: 28
Views: 133215

Re: Amelia White (in the Daily Mail) deplores her CH years

I've found Amelia's articles to be perceptive and insightful of her experience of boarding, and compassionate to the child she was back then. That she is now able to extend that compassion to other BS survivors is a powerful expression that change and healing is possible. I admire her immensely for ...
by Janey Jam-Jar
Fri Mar 22, 2024 7:59 pm
Forum: Stories, Reminiscing & Teacher/Pupil Memories
Topic: Richard Slater
Replies: 17
Views: 15212

Re: Richard Slater

Just posting to keep this thread alive as I remember dear Rick and sometimes he still pops into mind, even after all this time. He will only really die when we do. That's really lovely to read. I ended up watching Highway and the Remembrance service from 1989 the other day. Feels like a different w...
by Janey Jam-Jar
Fri Mar 08, 2024 5:59 pm
Forum: Stories, Reminiscing & Teacher/Pupil Memories
Topic: Richard Slater
Replies: 17
Views: 15212

Re: Richard Slater

Being called in at break to the chapel. Tongues guessing at what it was. That must have been particularly difficult for Dobbie and Poulton to tell us... And that night someone put candles on the crossing and they burnt all night. Sad times. From my understanding, Poulton was abroad. I think Poulton...
by Janey Jam-Jar
Fri Mar 08, 2024 5:53 pm
Forum: Stories, Reminiscing & Teacher/Pupil Memories
Topic: Richard Slater
Replies: 17
Views: 15212

Re: Richard Slater

Just posting to keep this thread alive as I remember dear Rick and sometimes he still pops into mind, even after all this time. He will only really die when we do. That's really lovely to read. I ended up watching Highway and the Remembrance service from 1989 the other day. Feels like a different w...
by Janey Jam-Jar
Mon Jan 08, 2024 5:54 pm
Forum: Abuse cases and related discussions
Topic: Here's a hypothetical
Replies: 163
Views: 2570611

Re: Here's a hypothetical

Really glad to read a follow-up to your initial postings, Lenny. I remember reading them and holding my breath because what you wrote came across as so visceral and impassioned - and chimed with some of my thoughts too. But I wasn't in an emotional place to respond then. ... Big thanks to this forum...
by Janey Jam-Jar
Mon Jan 08, 2024 4:03 pm
Forum: Abuse cases and related discussions
Topic: Self Help Group for Survivors of Abuse at CH
Replies: 9
Views: 15969

Re: Self Help Group for Survivors of Abuse at CH

Thanks Duncan for sharing this information. I've had a lot of individual therapy (still ongoing), and done my own counsellor training. Both very worthwhile in their different ways. The self-help group last year has been a revelation in communication and sharing with other OBs who experienced abuses,...
by Janey Jam-Jar
Wed Jan 22, 2020 9:01 pm
Forum: Abuse cases and related discussions
Topic: Bishop Ball documentary BBC2 2100 TONIGHT
Replies: 73
Views: 124423

Re: Bishop Ball documentary BBC2 2100 TONIGHT

So would Gloucestershire Police be able to say whether Christ's Hospital or an individual connected had written a letter of support for Ball?
by Janey Jam-Jar
Wed Jan 22, 2020 6:15 pm
Forum: Abuse cases and related discussions
Topic: Bishop Ball documentary BBC2 2100 TONIGHT
Replies: 73
Views: 124423

Re: Bishop Ball documentary BBC2 2100 TONIGHT

I watched both programmes last night. 2) Whether CH was one of the schools who sent a character reference/letter of support? A brief glimpse of a letter from Cranleigh appears at 53.00 minutes in episode 1. I'm wondering if Gloucestershire Police would disclose this sort of information if you reque...
by Janey Jam-Jar
Wed Jan 22, 2020 6:07 pm
Forum: Stories, Reminiscing & Teacher/Pupil Memories
Topic: Dr Jory
Replies: 13
Views: 15414

Re: Dr Jory

https://www.bmj.com/content/334/7598/857.4

There's an obituary here in the BMJ but as I'm not a subscriber I can't see it properly.
by Janey Jam-Jar
Wed Jan 22, 2020 9:30 am
Forum: Abuse cases and related discussions
Topic: Bishop Ball documentary BBC2 2100 TONIGHT
Replies: 73
Views: 124423

Re: Bishop Ball documentary BBC2 2100 TONIGHT

I watched both programmes last night.

I'd be interested to know:

1) Who was the contact who first invited or enabled an invitation to be made to Ball for him to become involved at CH?

2) Whether CH was one of the schools who sent a character reference/letter of support?
by Janey Jam-Jar
Wed Jan 22, 2020 9:17 am
Forum: Stories, Reminiscing & Teacher/Pupil Memories
Topic: Dr Jory
Replies: 13
Views: 15414

Re: Dr Jory

Thanks, Mid A 15. I've linked the thread onto the 1990s Leavers group and the CH Support Group. There are Hertford 'girls' on there.
by Janey Jam-Jar
Tue Jan 21, 2020 8:51 pm
Forum: Stories, Reminiscing & Teacher/Pupil Memories
Topic: Dr Jory
Replies: 13
Views: 15414

Re: Dr Jory

Hi all, I wonder if any former CH'ers are able to recall Dr Jory at all? If you are able to recall him at CH can you please email me on Charles.derham@verisonalaw.com Many thanks Charles Dr Jory was still at Hertford in 1983-84, two years before the merger. Is there any way of publicising this amon...
by Janey Jam-Jar
Tue Jul 16, 2019 12:11 pm
Forum: Abuse cases and related discussions
Topic: Poulton, Cairncross, Sillett
Replies: 61
Views: 44082

Re: Poulton, Cairncross, Sillett

Governor Qualifications and Disqualifications https://www.governor.support/recruiting-governors/governor-qualifications-and-disqualifications/ Section 13 - prohibitions from working with children Section 14 - prohibitions with criminal convictions None of the 1980/90s SMT would be barred from being...